Are Coffee Dates Bad? – Part 1

Are Coffee Dates Bad? - Part 1 Online Dating

When it comes to a first date, many choose to meet up for a quick cocktail, right? Especially if you’re like, well, if you’re trying to date blogger Katy Horwood, you better not take her out to get coffee, okay? Because this is a big debate now. So Katy wrote an article for the Metro UK, titled, why lunchtime coffee dates are everything that is wrong with modern dating. Katy says she feels like a coffee date is the easy way for a guy.

And indicates to her that he didn’t invest a lot of time in planning the date. So Katy added, quote, a coffee at lunch is like a job interview lining dates up like potential employees. And allowing half an hour to assess whether someone fits your dating standards. So ladies, this is what a lot of people do nowadays.

Do you think single ladies should dine or dash with the guy who asks them out to get coffee on a first date? >> No, she said he hasn’t invest anything, girl, he don’t know you. >> Exactly. >> Like what do you want? >> [APPLAUSE] >> Like I just don’t get how we put so many limitations these days on what is acceptable for a first date. What’s not acceptable for a first date. A lot of people actually date people that are in similar circles as them, so they’ve gotten to know them. They’ve hung out with them a few times and they’ll be like, yo, dude, I like that one girl. And then you go on a date with her, but you’ve met her before.

You can’t expect for someone to invest in you, when they don’t even know you. >> Yeah. >> [APPLAUSE] >> Give them a chance, have some coffee, see if there’s a connection there. For instance, if he only met you on Match or has seen your photo on social media. At least give an opportunity for coffee, which is very simple, it’s short and it’s not a big investment. Which it shouldn’t be on the very first date. >> Yeah, I totally agree with you. I think today, as you notice, isn’t your time getting really harder and harder- >> As you get older. >> To spend quality time, yes, you want to spend time with your family, with people you know and love.

So nowadays, I think 30 minutes is like the new 30 day trial. >> Right. >> You know what I’m talking about? Like when you signed up for Netflix, or you signed up for your Uber account or something, like they give you a 30 day free trial. >> Yes. >> And let you just test drive it, if I like you enough, then I will renew you after the 30 minutes. >> [LAUGH] I heard that, Jeannie. >> [APPLAUSE] >> Right? >> I love that perspective. >> Yes. >> What? >> You’ve got to test drive it. >> I like, I think that not only, I think we look at it wrong. I think that we look at the guy, but what about me? Maybe I don’t want to invest all my time with you. So I think that it is good to do coffee, first of all, especially if your online dating, you date a lot. >> So meals can get expensive, drinks can get expensive.

When it comes to a first date, many choose to meet up for a quick cocktail, right? Especially if you’re like, well, if you’re trying to date blogger Katy Horwood, you better not take her out to get coffee, okay? Because this is a big debate now. So Katy wrote an article for the Metro UK, titled, why lunchtime coffee dates are everything that is wrong with modern dating. Katy says she feels like a coffee date is the easy way for a guy.

Are Coffee Dates Bad? - Part 1 Online Dating

And indicates to her that he didn’t invest a lot of time in planning the date. So Katy added, quote, a coffee at lunch is like a job interview lining dates up like potential employees. And allowing half an hour to assess whether someone fits your dating standards. So ladies, this is what a lot of people do nowadays.

Do you think single ladies should dine or dash with the guy who asks them out to get coffee on a first date? >> No, she said he hasn’t invest anything, girl, he don’t know you. >> Exactly. >> Like what do you want? >> [APPLAUSE] >> Like I just don’t get how we put so many limitations these days on what is acceptable for a first date. What’s not acceptable for a first date. A lot of people actually date people that are in similar circles as them, so they’ve gotten to know them. They’ve hung out with them a few times and they’ll be like, yo, dude, I like that one girl. And then you go on a date with her, but you’ve met her before.

You can’t expect for someone to invest in you, when they don’t even know you. >> Yeah. >> [APPLAUSE] >> Give them a chance, have some coffee, see if there’s a connection there. For instance, if he only met you on Match or has seen your photo on social media. At least give an opportunity for coffee, which is very simple, it’s short and it’s not a big investment. Which it shouldn’t be on the very first date. >> Yeah, I totally agree with you. I think today, as you notice, isn’t your time getting really harder and harder- >> As you get older. >> To spend quality time, yes, you want to spend time with your family, with people you know and love.

So nowadays, I think 30 minutes is like the new 30 day trial. >> Right. >> You know what I’m talking about? Like when you signed up for Netflix, or you signed up for your Uber account or something, like they give you a 30 day free trial. >> Yes. >> And let you just test drive it, if I like you enough, then I will renew you after the 30 minutes. >> [LAUGH] I heard that, Jeannie. >> [APPLAUSE] >> Right? >> I love that perspective. >> Yes. >> What? >> You’ve got to test drive it. >> I like, I think that not only, I think we look at it wrong. I think that we look at the guy, but what about me? Maybe I don’t want to invest all my time with you. So I think that it is good to do coffee, first of all, especially if your online dating, you date a lot. >> So meals can get expensive, drinks can get expensive.

So I think that the coffee, first of all, if he ain’t paying for my coffee, then you know he ain’t going to pay for dinner. And that’s already your test. >> [APPLAUSE] >> [LAUGH] >> I see Tam’s face over there. >> I know. I guess, honestly I didn’t date a lot, as you guys know. So to me, when I go on a date, it is a big deal for me, and I can’t, this is just me, I can’t drink coffee after like 12 PM. >> My God. >> I get really, really anxious and I can’t sleep at night, I’m serious. >> You know you could get tea, right? >> I know, but still, when I think coffee, I think of a coffee date.

And then when I think of a coffee date, I think of, the atmosphere is really, really loud. >> That’s the best place, so you can be a fool! >> I really want to focus on my date, and really see if it’s going to go somewhere. And I like a little alcohol. >> Yes! >> So on my first date- >> No one said you can’t put a little woo-hoo in that coffee. >> Exactly. >> I know, but I also like the atmosphere of a restaurant, I like the candles, I guess I’m just a huge romantic.

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